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Föderation EN Mo 27.05.2024 22:38:54

Young people are waking up every day to media about war, genocides, dead children. They are unsure of being able to make a living, scared by debt, violence, addiction, homelessness. They are unsure if the burning planet will even support their lives. They are struggling for secure basic housing after having their lives upended by a pandemic...

meanwhile the NYT:

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Föderation EN Mo 27.05.2024 22:46:06

@quinn ...where by "smartphones", they don't mean "tech companies who make smartphones" or "smartphone UX design" or "people who sell smartphones", but of course "kids these days spend too damn much time on their smartphones when they should be out being abused and underpaid for the plutonomy working an honest job" or whatever.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 10:06:54

@woozle @quinn The current state of things with tech companies and the all encompassing surveillance, enshittification and digital extortion would indeed also be something to get depressed about.

Föderation EN Mi 29.05.2024 00:59:02

@woozle @quinn " ...where by "smartphones", they don't mean [...] "smartphone UX design" "

Smartphones and actually most of modern OS UI depress me.
Big software companies UX guidlines aren't anymore about ergonomy but almost exclusively about taking the users in hostage, and no one care if the release is full of bugs.

Föderation EN Mo 27.05.2024 22:56:08

@quinn

image description:

Screenshot of a headline of an article in the Opinion section, published May 1, 2024.

Text:

Are Smartphones Driving Our Teens to Depression?

Föderation EN Mo 27.05.2024 23:02:47

@quinn 'Well, I doomscroll and am depressed, so these innoncent little angels (said by someone who has not interacted with a 14-16 year old in a long, long time) must be protected!

It is the method of getting the information to blame!

In all honestly, they really would prefer that sub 18 year olds (and 25, even) are kept completely 'sealed' from any other information except what they control. Because if they control that, the children will unquestionably agree! (spoiler: Not how kids work)

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 02:07:18

@Oggie @quinn That hasn’t changed, though. If you’re a minor, your access to information is heavily restricted and monitored by everyone who claims to have an interest in your well-being—which is to say, no one, not a damn person. It’s really hard to feel like anyone cares about your well-being when they’re clearly pursuing an abstraction of what an ideal child ought to be.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 08:10:18

@enoch_exe_inc @Oggie @quinn

Libraries.

They saved my sanity as an abused kid.

I was able to do a lot of research and reading without adults knowing everything I was studying.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 12:16:08

@Aphrodite @enoch_exe_inc @Oggie @quinn yes and they were also third spaces for kids. But I am a little envious that kids these days can do research for papers anytime of day any day of the week. I could only work on that stuff in the library was open and when I could get there without public transportation because we still don’t have it here.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 13:43:56

@Aphrodite @enoch_exe_inc @Oggie @quinn For me, it was the Internet I had at home; living in suburbia, getting to the library required a car ride and a convincing reason to go there. My parents didn’t install “parental controls” (i.e. total surveillance software) until fairly late into my childhood, so I got to experience the uncensored Internet of the 2000s.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 20:24:18

@enoch_exe_inc @Aphrodite @Oggie @quinn this is another reason walkable neighborhoods are so important

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 15:31:49

@enoch_exe_inc @Oggie i mean, i think there's a fair few kids who have good parenting to lean on, and hope my own child is one of them 😬

I mean, i know there's a lot of shitty parents out there, but there's good ones, and ones who really do want their kid to prosper being who they are. Whether the system you're in supports you as a parent is another complicated question.

Föderation EN Mi 29.05.2024 00:57:46

@quinn @enoch_exe_inc @Oggie Yeah, I’m mainly criticising society more than I’m criticising my parents. They could’ve been the best people in the world, but it would not have solved the fundamental problem of children having effectively no rights, no freedoms, no autonomy, not even ownership of oneself. As a whole, life as a child is nightmarishly dystopian and unapologetically totalitarian.

Föderation EN Mo 27.05.2024 23:03:41

@quinn so the answer is "yes", I guess?

Föderation EN Mo 27.05.2024 23:12:18

@quinn

you know the famous @paulisci thread about kids don't want to work anymore ?

This "kids are depressed due to X" thing is probably as old

Föderation EN Mo 27.05.2024 23:17:43

@quinn Ha! I was suicidal at, like, 10 (well before I had a smartphone). I win.

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Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 06:02:47

@MxVerda @quinn I was 17 when I tried. Before the Internet was really a thing outside of university campuses.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 12:17:54

@MxVerda @quinn Yep I wished for death at age 7 and I didn’t even have cable TV. I didn’t see any hope for the future, my mom got married and had babies like she was told she was supposed to do, and that led to a miserable life. Then I watched her try to go to work in the 70s and 80s and not even enough to pay for the childcare she needed so she could go to work.

As a female child who was childfree by choice MY WHOLE LIFE it all looked super hopeless to me in the 70s and 80s.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 15:38:08

@MxVerda my first attempt was at 11, too. i'm sorry and hope things are getting better. i think for a lot of people it gets easier in the 30s. not easy, but easier.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 20:25:17

@MxVerda @quinn I was normal bullied out of society before smartphone were common

Föderation EN Mo 27.05.2024 23:19:34

@quinn
*Fixed*
Is the reality of a corrupt socioeconomic system plagued by a legacy of descriminatory systemic social norms and maintained by a sociopathic media sphere, somewhat depressing?

Föderation EN Mo 27.05.2024 23:28:45

@quinn yes, I'm with you. Smartphones have not created behaviours, desires, fears or conflicts that haven't existed before. They haven't changed the core drivers and expressions of human nature. They're not the cause.

OTOH, I remember as a teen being really glad I got to go home at the end of the day, away from those bitches who tormented me. Now kids carry their bullies home in their pockets. Now their terrible decisions get memorialised and shared. Phones make some bad things worse.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 12:19:56

@Iwillyeah @quinn excellent point, I pretty much just stopped going to school to avoid those bitches. And if I’m being honest, I was bullied by teachers far more than I was bullied by my peers. They hated me because I never showed up but I got all my work done and I nailed the tests.

It made them mad I missed 80 out of 180 days but my grades were still in the 90s.

But yeah if I had to listen to all the little bitches even when I wasn’t at school I don’t think I would’ve made it through.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 13:11:11

@maggiejk @quinn I'm really sorry school was like that. You were really let down.

For many young people being able to reach out and communicate in positive ways with people not connected to you is liberating, and might be just the light in the dark that they need. Unfortunately, my experience of working with teens is that they often gravitate towards the internet's worst parts and dwell on their worst experiences of it. I'm reminded of this hbr.org/2013/03/the-ideal-prai

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 00:09:01

@quinn Well, it is an opinion, and you know what they say about them: "Everyone has opinions and arseholes, and they both stink"

So par for the course.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 03:20:25

@BirdsInMyBrain @quinn

"These kids today are running around with stone tablets, wasting their time carving glyphs about Ra and Isis while expecting those pyramids to build themselves." -- Ancient Egyptian Boomer

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 01:11:56

@quinn I'll play devil's advocate and say there is definitely correlation (not causation), yes.

Föderation · Di 28.05.2024 01:15:26

@quinn@social.circl.lu in fairness to the New York Times, Smartphones are where the teenagers are learning about war, genocide, dead children, the burning planet, and so on.

So you can understand their confusion.

🙄

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 01:41:02

@quinn i was a teen long before cell phones even existed and i had chronic depression

so, sure, it could contribute, but it isn't the only reason

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 01:45:09

@quinn and they are being told to shut up about it or they’ll be arrested.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 01:57:11

@quinn These aren't mutually exclusive things.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 02:06:19

@quinn is it the smartphones or the old media institutions that thrive on chaos and fear?

Old media: it's the phones, duh.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 02:17:31

@quinn @Adam_Cadmon1 phones and more specifically, apps, do keep kids up later, and schools start too early, which means kids don't get enough sleep and are less equipped to handle all the other stresses.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 02:18:10

@quinn this.

Föderation · Di 28.05.2024 02:24:50

@quinn teens are pretty resilient to almost everything except peer abuse so I believe it is the phones.

Föderation · Di 28.05.2024 02:31:44

@quinn Yes, Karen, it is the smartphones

Föderation · Di 28.05.2024 02:32:33

@mrsaturday @quinn I swear they did this exact article slightly before COVID (and the responses on Fedi were identical)

Föderation · Di 28.05.2024 02:38:09

@mrsaturday @quinn OK I found a Ross Douthat article about it from early 2023 on NYTimes, and I believe there was a followup by another NYTimes writer, so this is like the third time in two years that NYT has done the same article

Föderation · Di 28.05.2024 07:53:05

@sun @mrsaturday @quinn i wouldn't blame communication itself, i blame the bigtech that control and pervert how the communication channel operates... if the article doesn't bring attention to bigtech then its effectively calling for more communication censorship imo.

the difference is subtle but it means the difference between freedom vs further inflicting mass narratve control. we should start actively informing folkthat the o/ses and firmare on their phones is bad for them, #fdroid is all well and good, but it means zip nada null if the underlying technology is a black box.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 08:52:10

@frogzone @sun@shitposter.world @quinn@social.circl.lu It's a gradual process, and F-Droid hosts not only the apps but also the tools to allow anyone to control their communication channels and beyond. F-Droid is the easiest step to take first.

Föderation · Di 28.05.2024 23:40:30

@fdroidorg @sun @quinn agree, fdroid is a fine step and ppl who like to think of themselves as techaware and they have android and yet no fdroid just make me facepalm.

i was big into fdroid before i realized all smart devices were garbage, today not even the kids want a shart phone. mustve taught em well.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 02:34:21

@quinn ah yes
/smartphones/

you know, the box that lets us talk to our friends when we're not at home.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 20:29:59

@IceWolf @quinn your friends could.be gay ("drag Queen grooming") or black ("critical race theory") and that peirces the hermetically sealed exurban environment made for their idoctrination /s

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 02:34:28

@quinn counterpoint: The only thing we need to do is get rid of smartphones and teens will immediately be happy again... Yes I know I slayed you with my logic! 🤡🥴

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 02:35:49

@quinn

Also, they live in a world where parents would rather their kids die than have them homeschooled during a pandemic.

Or for that matter, die at school rather than have basic gun control.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 12:26:00

@csstrowbridge @quinn oh for sure and they are told the only goal they should have is to learn to be the best possible employee for their boss. And if they’re really good they’ll get paid enough to afford a studio apartment! YAY!

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 12:42:25

@maggiejk @quinn

Meanwhile, the boss is buying a new car every year that costs more than everything these kids own combined.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 20:30:55

@csstrowbridge @quinn our society is sick. It thrives on killing kids

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 02:52:40

@quinn
Alternate title suggestion: "We live in a dystopian nightmare. Being conscious of it could affect your mental health!"

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 02:55:15

@quinn I have Seen. -'kids', as I am an 'old guy'-have no social skills what-so-ever. No recognition of humor, or compliment- the blank stare is worrisome. 'Oh, that's just the way kids are' parents say--I Say, 'That is Your fault!' "kids' will need to assimilate into society Someday. Your job is to prepare them, parents .

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 12:31:45

@patcanfield @quinn I remember fighting with my mom about my youngest brother’s inability to say thank you for gifts or to call people on their birthday.

The misogynistic excuses she would make for this behavior, then I would try to explain it’s her job as a parent to teach him how to act right. Making excuses for him because he was born with a penis is not doing him any favors.

He’s 32 now, and he’s much better at saying thank you for gifts or at least acknowledging them. But I still never hear from him on holidays unless I call him.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 02:59:50

@quinn there’s a looooong history of blaming the medium instead of the message. It’s so much easier to critique inanimate objects.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 06:07:19

@StephanieMoore @quinn "The medium is the message." — Marshall McLuhan's casual viewin'

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 03:05:55

@quinn Hell, I haven’t been a teen in decades and what I see depresses me. I think if you’re not at least end bummed out somewhat by the state of the world, there might be something wrong making the accusation of “smart phones are the real problem” < principle Skinner broken window meme>

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 03:11:34

@quinn Teen depression was quite high in the 80s as well because, well, the world I grew up in had a massive threat looming over us. These days while social media is creating changes we have to think about they are not the underlying reason for why our youth may be even more bereft than my generation was.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 03:29:28

@quinn this shady ass shit drives even more behind the "limit their screen time" mommy bloggers

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 03:33:07

@quinn
"...Waking up every day to media..."
We had violence and wars and genocides, famines, recessions, unaffordable housing, unemployment, in "the late 1900s" too. But we heard about it for maximum 1hr a day on the "TV" then went on with our lives. Y'all have a tiny box that blares the worst news of the worst people in the world at all hours of the day -- it's at least a contributing factor. . .

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 06:10:39

@ClancyParliament @quinn On the other hand, though, we also had the "inevitable" nuclear holocaust hovering overhead to the point that it shows up in pop songs: Silent Running, Eastern Wind, 99 Luftballons, etc. etc. etc.

I mean in German dance clubs we were DANCING to inevitable nuclear holocaust!

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 12:35:59

@zdl @ClancyParliament @quinn I cried when Reagan won the election because I was convinced we would all die in a nuclear war.

I was 7 years old.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 03:34:03

@quinn Show me a time in history when there hasn't been war, cold war, genocides, hunger and children dying? Today's kids are emotionally weak because they are taught to be weak. Nothing new is going on. The phones may be a vector for information over load otherwise same shit different era.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 04:36:20

@quinn I would say the distraction and hopelessness offered on the smartphone is not a good thing. Their government could certainly care less about them. It is a declining empire that sees them as sources of revenue. Dut if they were organized into coalitions of power then the government would have to listen.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 04:48:33

@quinn

I am surprised at all the supporters of smartphones for kids.

I am a parent of two teens and 1-pre teen and smartphones are an absolute disaster for kids. Sure, all the social anxiety and teen drama has been around for ever, but when I was a teen, you "unplugged" from it at home and on the weekends. Now for many teens it is like a 24/7 IV plugged into their mind causing manipulation and anxiety.

I try to monitor it..but unplugging them causes social isolation. Its terrible.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 12:37:22

@vashbear @quinn I don’t read this thread as in support of kids having smart phones, I think people are just pushing back at the idea that it’s the smart phones that are the problem and not capitalism for example. Or climate change. The ruling class will do everything to make sure that nothing fundamentally changes for them.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 20:35:48

@vashbear @quinn yeah, have you considered that the world.is.activly hostile to kids and teens and they have no actual social spaces outside of tech anymore?

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 05:02:08

@quinn forgive me

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Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 05:07:41

@quinn my RSS news feed is indeed terribly depressing.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 20:36:15

@nul42 @quinn it would be less so if you leaders aren't fucking up the world

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 05:14:19

@quinn

"Wait! Wait! What if it's rock music?" - clueless adults

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 05:17:37

@quinn The Times is like the uncle who always has to ruin your day... with his "wisdom."

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 05:40:45

@quinn I was listening to CBC this afternoon, and report of banning cell phone use while in school... While I *think* there's an argument for reducing how it can be distracting for *some* people (I've seen it more often than I've seen it be useful), the outright ban kind of stinks.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 20:38:29

@jigmedatse @quinn it's designed tp hurt the kids, who may I remind you are legally required to be there

Föderation EN Mi 29.05.2024 00:35:28

@fluffykittycat @quinn That's a more direct way of putting it. While I do agree (I can go that way myself) phones *can* be a massive distraction. But from what I've seen about *when* that happens, is because "stuff isn't interesting enough". Which shouldn't be the case for school.

Föderation EN Mi 29.05.2024 03:53:50

@jigmedatse @quinn school sucks, I don't blame the kids one bit for checking out

Föderation EN Mi 29.05.2024 06:49:32

@fluffykittycat @quinn I think often in the public system, the funding is so terrible, that the resources aren't there. It takes a dedicated person to continue to teach, usually because they are "afraid" of who might end up taking their place.

In Canada (depending on province) it's *probably* better than most of the US.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 06:00:12

@quinn Well, the NYT isn't WRONG as such. I mean it is, after all, smartphones delivering all that media about war, genocide, the death of children, etc. to them.

And we all know it's always the messenger who's to blame, right?

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 06:02:48

@quinn
Understandable. Taking USA as an example I see probability of say USA: purging (genocide or flee) immigrants; oppression of dissidents (incl CC); beating & maiming dissidents; growth of child marriage & forced pregnancy; increasing shootings (police & extremists);.... chaos ...
The oppression is important (eg demonstrations, tiktok), democracy dies in silence.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 07:57:54

@quinn in all fairness there’s a lot of misinformation out there.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 08:24:50

@quinn same tbh

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 09:31:05

@quinn Not only our children. It makes all of us crazy and is going to be the reason for the next civil war.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 09:59:37

@quinn Or they could be waking up in the UK where the actual governing party, after 14 years in power, is seriously suggesting a year's National Service (mandatory conscription into armed services that I doubt would handle such an influx of reluctant teenagers) as a headline policy for why they should be elected back into power for another few years

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 20:39:31

@schmerg @quinn honesty a government of 14 year olds would be led bad than these past 14 years of Tory mismanagement

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 10:03:00

@quinn Close your eyes to the horrors of the world, youth! Your mind needs not to be informed of the maladies visited upon you unwillingly by the most greedy of your elders!

Föderation · Di 28.05.2024 10:11:51

@quinn@social.circl.lu What they are waking up to is the reality that they have no future, plus a lot of people selling them lies about how to be more wealthy, more beautiful, and what to buy and what not.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 11:15:46

@quinn The pandemic is still ongoing!

Föderation · Di 28.05.2024 13:15:23

@quinn@social.circl.lu NYT’s entire angle is “shut up and give rich people more money”. They could shut down today and there would be no effect to the world.

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 14:28:47

@quinn As long as you're always bent over your phone you don't have to notice that depression...

Föderation SK Di 28.05.2024 17:40:50

@quinn yes and no...... screentime and excesive consumation of content is harming your mental health. Platforms like meta or X does not care about your mental health issues caused by their products..

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 20:40:52

@tominothemaple @quinn the problem is with those corperations and their shit products specifically

Föderation EN Di 28.05.2024 20:22:38

@quinn they don't want young people to have access to.information on hopes of hiding how bad they're screwing us. We have to fight back